Okay, so when I first told my monkies about the baby in mommy's belly, they were both super excited! Now that baby Jaxon has been home for 11 days, things are already changing, and I'm not really sure how to handle it. I guess it would be different if I wasn't a single mom, but when I'm home with them, it's JUST ME...thank goodness Jack is somewhat of an easy baby. But Maddie is not adjusting well...at all! She has been dubbed "Mattitude" because she is so sassy and so...I don't know, mean. I'm sure she is jealous and feels that, as my mom would say, "her nose has been cut off" but seriously, I may start pulling my hair out.
Everyday she now tells me, "well, mom, can we take baby Jax back to the hospital and put him back in your tummy?" And it doesn't help that I'm nursing him because everytime he cries and wants to eat, she goes into this whinny fit and wants me to hold her..."put him down!!!" It's so difficult. I've never before had to tell her, "no mommy can't hold you right now," and wow, you can tell.
Not to mention that for some reason, her favorite words these days seem to all contain 4 letters, and I can't figure out how to get her to stop. I've tried threatening, taking toys away, "sassy sauce" (white vinager in a spray bottle), but nothing really seems to get my point across that these words are unacceptable...ie, if she really is upset, it's not okay to call someone f**king stupid...I really want to know where she learned these words. I have an idea, but everytime I address it, it's quickly pointed out that I'm not super mom which is soooo super frusterating.
I can't wait for this to pass, but I'm also worried that if she's like this at 3...I'm scared of what 16 will look like. How do you disclipine a child without breaking their spirit?